This is perfect! I don't even know what to say!
PROS
Story, characters, setting, art, music, emotions, writing, colors, clarity, lore..... EVERYTHING
I really connect to this story specifically. I'm not a skilled fighter or strong like Yrsa, but I am a strong, 6ft tall, broad shouldered, pale lady who has light red hair, big calves, big hands, is nicknamed Bear, and has been made fun of for all of the above. Oh my god this was a fantastic story! I so appreciate Yrsa's backstory and how she was able to move on from the pain of ridicule and judgement but how she also wasn't. She really internalized those feelings and just assumed that she wasn't ever going to be a "real" lady. I almost cried. I'd done the same thing. I leaned into the stereotype and decided that I was going to embrace my strength but also had to learn that strength is not being able to break things or using force. Still don't want to wear dresses sometimes because I feel silly and like I'm a walking giant that everyone will stare at. Some days are better and I do love heels and being tall. I want to go to the gym and get stronger but am also scared...
My nickname Bear was more of a fond one and my dad encouraged my strength but my mom wouldn't let me play "boy sports" and seemed embarrassed if I ever stood out for being strong or wanted to roughhouse. My dad would bet his friends that I could pick them up and he was always so happy when I proved them wrong and lifted them off the ground when I was only in 5th grade. I noticed though that the guys I lifted would sometimes look at me with a mixture of wariness and like I was some sort of thing... Also I'm assuming that Yrsa has the same problem that I do when shopping for shoes. They're never right and men's shoes and jackets fit much better but then you're wearing "men's clothes" and get told you look like a linebacker or like you're going to break something??? Was told by my boyfriends mother once that we "looked bad together" and by a different boyfriends mother that we "didn't look right together" I was too tall. My dates were always shorter than me which I thought was fine but they would also be made fun of and get asked things like "Who wears the pants" and "how do you two.. ya know?" and my fav "If she falls on you she will crush you"....-_-
I could go on forever. I wish I could go to this town and meet her and Uribel. I would love to learn woodworking even if I'm older than all her students by a lot... Ugh I want to cry again. I love this story and am going to recommend this to my friends online who play too <3